Yes, I like Kpop and I am a big fan of some groups. But I don't want anyone define myself as a 'fanboy'. Why? Because simply I am not a male version of 'fan girl'. I am not a fan girl in man body?! There are much different things between me and fan girls in general. Let me explain more about that!
When I like a boyband I simply like their performances and personalities. The same when you like a spesific comedian, youtuber or anime charater such as Naruto. They more like 'inspire' me. I'd like to have a deep and heart-warming relationship with them. Maybe just like a regular friendship, except without "real" interactions.
Well I am not gay but I'm not a homophobic too. Sometimes boybands in their MV or variety show, you know, act cute or look shirtless. I don't feel any sexual arousal or something like that while watching it. I just appreciate the art of their performance or their variety-show sense if they deserve it.
But they are really friendly to their fandom which is nice!
Also I have my own life too. I do have friends in real world! Being 'addicted' and being 'loyal' is much different. Eventhough being a 'fanboy' has its own experience. It's great indeed and I think it's totally normal. It's just hard for me to admit it to people that I'm a Kpop fan, even to fangirls! I can't say it out loud because they don't understand the logic of my reasons. There's always this stigma about fanboy equals with 'gay' or 'freak'. I mean, it's okay to be gay or freak tho, everyone has their own choices. It's just..... I am not like that. I'm just a fan, that's it.
Actually I'm so picky when it's about following a group. Sometimes I just like their songs, their persona on stage, or their appearance on show/movie. I don't want to easily declarate myself as a 'fan of someone/some groups. After +/- 10 years of knowing K-pop, I'm only a fan of two groups so far. But I do support another group or singer when they deserve it. And of course I don't hate or even attack other groups or fandom.
I hope this article somehow helps you to understand more things because it actually helps me to see things more clearly. Thank you so much for reading~ Support me by sharing this article or just leave tracks in comment section, I'll appreciate that ;)